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| Reviewer: Benji, San Diego, CA |
I respectfully disagree with the previous reviewer who said that Argov's first book was better. As a guy, I thought the exact opposite: "Why Men MARRY Bitches" gives women much more sorely-needed advice.
This book is not about marriage. It's about why single women don't enter relationships that progress, and would be a good read for single and married women.
From a male's perspective, I was amazed at how well it gets into the minds of men and tells women what makes us want to be exclusive, what makes us lose interest in other women, what we respect... "marry" nails it from a man's perspective. The first book Argov talks about things that are obvious and predictable, like whether or not to sleep with the guy on the first date. "Why Men MARRY Bitches" talks about how a guy will test a girl, how he may manipulate her to keep the relationship casual, how a guy might lead her to believe he's interested in committing and then do the "holding pattern" with the "I'm really busy with work" excuses. The advice in the last chapter on what a women should say to a guy when it isn't progressing is outstanding. It tells women why things don't progress, and that's where most women need help. They have no problem catching a guy, it's keeping him around where it gets messed up and that's why "Why Men Marry Bitches" is superior.
Also, I can confirm Argov would have no way of knowing the things she discloses in this book unless she actually sat down and interviewed us men. I found myself saying under my breath, "Who told her this?" on almost every page. I was blown away by the discussions of how men are made to feel they are "filling a position" when a women talks about "wanting to get married" (but doesn't matter to whom). It is such valuable information for women to read.
I also think the chapter called "Wanted Joe Paycheck" in "Why Men Marry Bitches" is brilliant. Argov describes that a guy won't mind paying for a dinner, but we won't attach himself to a woman who has the "attitude of entitlement." There are really good examples about women planning the excessive wedding arrangements, a woman who quits her job without consulting with her fiance, and so on....it's something EVERY SINGLE woman needs to educate herself on if she wants to keep a guy around because we will not commit if we feel like an ATM machine.
There's no question most women don't even know how they are being perceived by men. So they are trying to get respect but don't know how. I like and respect women, and think they should be treated with respect, which is what the author is teaching women to demand.
I gave "Why Men Marry Bitches" five stars. If I could, I would give this book six. It's a very "real" book that is also entertaining and funny--and both men and women should absolutely pick it up. |
So that's why...
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| Reviewer: B. Parsons, |
| I am so glad I got this book. It's about claiming your empowerment as a female and not backing down. It's not about being mean, as some might think, it's about using your brain and getting what you want. I appreciated the author's candor and insight and thought this was one of the better dating/relationship guides on the market today. Another good one How To Be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve. |
Now she shows you how to close the deal-with real men's quotes!!
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| Reviewer: SmartFemme, San Francisco |
| For me, as a woman who has been too nice and too easygoing, Why Men Marry Bitches feels truly groundbreaking. It's compelling to read-I couldn't put it down, had to read cover-to-cover. (Even the cat mewling for lunch couldn't break my intensity!!) Why? This is Sherry's best book so far because, for the first time, she includes real men's testimonials to show the mistakes women make when they try to get a commitment from a man. And these mistakes apply whether you are 3 months or 1 year into the relationship. What was also fresh in this book was the way she describes the different stages of a relationship and what's inside a man's mind when he stalls, creates distance or gives excuses to keep the relationship casual. I loved learning about the little half-truths guys use to keep a woman going even when the relationship is going nowhere! This male advice is invaluable and why I treasure this book so much. Another valuable insight is how to decode men's unspoken language and nonverbal behavior. We listen to the words, but the real meaning is lost unless we can literally read between the lines. If you are serious about closing the deal, i.e. marriage, you've really got to follow this book. I consider it my romantic bible!!! |
A man's view
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| Reviewer: L. Power, San Francisco |
Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself.
Her previous book -Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and do not take for granted.
Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests.
WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too.
For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.
The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage.
As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice.
What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.
The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.
I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.
Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.
Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at [...].
So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.
I trust you find this helpful.
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If you want to get married--read this book
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| Reviewer: Ex-Libris, |
Why Men Marry Bitches is a funny, insightful, and practical guide. It dispels the self-defeating myths that women often live by, like "I have to cathc a husband to feel whole" which translates to men as a more desirable woman. It gives logical relationship principles, and gives hilarious, detailed scenarios on how to handle the beloved, (if sometimes trying), man in your life. Read and follow the advice in this book only if you are seriously interested in having a quality relationship.
Why Men Marry Bitches begins with the uproarious anecdote: "Imagine a world in which roles are reversed and men cooked for women, picked up socks and couldn't wait to get married. Pretend you had a boyfriend who owned a hope chest with six lavender bow ties inside that he wanted his groomsmen to wear at the wedding. Picture him getting choked up every time you strolled past a Baby Gap. And that he greeted you at the door wearing silk boxers and cowboy boots, so he could do a pole dance for you." Then imagine they ask needy questions like "Where's my ring?" and "Why won't you marry me?"
Why Men Marry Bitches makes it clear that women don't need to work harder to please their man. The book not only encourages women to let go of long-standing myths about being perfect, being his sex toy, or being whoever he tells you to be--it exposes these myths for the self-defeating behaviors that women have to act like servants, and explains why men are secretly attracted to a strong woman who has more to bring to the table. The main theme of the book is incredibly empowering--live your own life fully and the proposals will keep on coming.
Forget when the other books tell you and listen to the advice in Why Men Marry Bitches. The book gives clear guidance based on hundreds of interviews Argov conducted with men to find out what is really going on. Chapters such as "Female Button Pushing: A Time-Honored Male Tradition" and "Breaking into the Boy's Club: Stolen Secrets--All the Highly Classified Things Men Will Share Only in the Company of Other Men," expose the secret strategies, codes, and signs men use to test women, to cover their own vulnerabilities, and to be sure they are loved for themselves--not what they can provide a woman. Think of it like visiting a foreign country, you'll have a better time if you know the "language." Argov provides the kind of "male-language" tutorial only a friend who has your best interest at heart can give.
Perhaps the most useful sections of Why Men Marry Bitches are the practical situations that Argov tackles. We've all been there. There's the small stuff--the man we love, doesn't call, breaks plans, or comes home late. There's the bigger stuff--the man we love is hesitant to propose. Why Men Marry Bitches gives realistic, specific advice on how to handle these situations while maintaining your dignity, self-respect, and independence. And that's how you make him fall more in love with you. Because dignity is the biggest turn-on of all.
Why Men Marry Bitches shows us, with great insight and humor, that when you are a "bitch" the situation is win/win. You focus on yourself, making a full, interesting life and how the man in your life loves you more for it--and wants you for his wife.
I've read them all, and this is the best.
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to understand what you read
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| Reviewer: A. Davis, |
Great Book. I would like to join the rest of the readers in their positive reviews. I would like to point out though that there is a possibility for some immature (unwise) women to follow its advices blindly -- to become completely aloof, unobtainable, scarce in relationship etc -- which will lead to ruining the relationship altogether.. The WISE thing to learn here is : to be nice,sweet AND self confident at the same time , to be available AND aloof when it's needed, to be reliable AND independent, to love him AND love your self at the same time ... etc .. For some people the book may come across as a " game playing" manual. I can see that. But for those who is able to THINK and analyze the book will be nothing but a manual guide to learning as to how to respect ourselves and to not become a shadow of those who we love. Very good book. Could be very shoking to very nice and sweet women. This book is a MUST for every woman. ..
p.s. sorry for not perfect English. |
I was sorry to get to the end of the book!
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| Reviewer: Meli, So. CA, USA |
Sherry is an astute, funny, no-nonsense writer.
The point in life is to find out what makes YOU tick, what do YOU love about life? People are very attracted to those who are passionate about about their lives. Most importantly, YOU will like yourself a whole lot better if you're not acting like somebody's puppet. It is worth noting that the world treats you as you treat yourself.....
Contrary to what women have been taught, we need to put ourselves first and assume the Captain Of My Own Ship attitude in relationships. We aren't meant to be reduced to the role of First-Mate. We understand when our guys take care of themselves by: going to the gym, rescheduling a date because of an important presentation first thing in morning, spending time with their buddies, honoring previous commitments made with others regardless that WE want to see them, etc. How about demonstrating that same loyalty to ourselves?
Ladies, it is so easy to exhibit the 'get over yourself' attitude with a guy who's misbehaving if you don't care...and then do a complete 180 with the man who floats our boat.
We then lament that God is playing a cruel joke on us and doesn't want us to be truly happy.....that we should 'settle', instead. Now put yourself in the guy's shoes. Don't you enjoy a challenge? Sure, the point is to win....eventually, that is.
Don't play hard to get. But don't be easy to get, either. Qualify a man before you share the most precious part of your soul with him.
If enough women will take Sherry's revelations to heart, less men would be jerks. Sure, some of them have character flaws, but others who are otherwise decent human beings will push the envelope. Would you put up with reckless behavior toward your relationship from your friends, families, or anyone else? Well, then.......When they experience women's refusal to put up with unacceptable behavior on a massive level, they will change - as Sherry points out, they want relationships, too. Sometimes it is necessary to delay instant gratification and go for the gold by sticking to your guns. A fringe benefit will manifest when you hold yourselves in high regard - his regard of you increases immensely!
Sisters unite!
God Bless You.
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AS HILARIOUS AS STAND UP COMEDY, AND AS SMART AS A WHIP
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| Reviewer: Sarah Ivask, New York, NY |
"Why Men Marry Bitches" is the best book on relationships. Whenever my male friends read through the book they say, "Wow. She is 100% right. How did she get this information?"
What I LOVE so much about this book is that it shows you HOW men view commitment, and the REAL reasons why men don't want to get involved. In the book, men reveal that they want an emotional connection as much as women do, but often feel they aren't "special" because most women seem like they want a commitment...with ANYBODY. Doesn't matter who the guy is, she wants a commitment before she knows his middle name. And Argov explains with crystal clarity exactly what turns men off, and how a few small modifications in a woman's words or actions makes all the difference in the world.
For example, the author explains that women sometimes ask questions or say things like "Where is this going?" or "What are your intentions?" before she even knows where the guy lives. When a guy gets those types of questions, he automatically assumes she is in love with "the idea" of a commitment, or that she's in love with "the wedding" or what a relationship represents. At that point he keeps her at arm's length, because (as men explain in their own words) what they dream of is a woman who is in love....WITH WHO HE IS! She won't just commit to anyone.
Argov has a rare ability to make you laugh and at the same time helps you realize how to do better. It's a feel good read that is entertaining and brilliant at the same time. You walk away feeling like you stand a little taller, and that men are likeable, sensitive and human. If you've ever wondered why most relationships stall after two or three months, after reading this book, YOU'LL GET IT.
What I love most is the fact that Argov doesn't tell you what you are doing wrong...she explains how you can do it right. She never talks down to the reader. She doesn't bash men. She even makes fun of herself. She gives you the feeling that she's down to earth and real, and that she's kicking back over a beer with you hanging out and cheering you up like a sister would. But at the same time, she gives the kind of seasoned advice that a relative or best friend would give about dignity and pride. And of course, she shows you how to turn the typical dating dynamic around so that he comes away feeling like COMMITMENT WAS HIS IDEA!
If you buy this book and get past the title--you will find it refreshing, hilariously funny, and extremely enlightening. I never give 5 stars for anything. But this one is 5 star worthy because of the information....as well as the entertainment comedy value. You'll laugh out loud reading it. |
EVEN BETTER than "Why Men Love B's"!!!
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| Reviewer: Phoenix Maa, New York, NY |
EVEN BETTER than "Why Men Love B's"!!!
If you're already in a relationship and read just one book, read this book! Every woman is doing herself a favor by reading Why Men Marry B's. Sherry teaches how to tell the difference between a guy seriously thinking about marriage and a guy stringing you along. You'll see with new eyes on:
-the signs of a serious, loving, committed guy
-the subtle hooks "high powered, successful" men use to lure women.
-how guys bait and use us using traditional and societal values under the pretence of being a potential guy.
-"guy" culture:
In Why Men Marry B's, you'll discover that how women were raised and how men think are like night and day. Many of the things women "should do" actually Hinder them from getting a proposal and -oh if more women knew!-
make men thnk less of them to boot. This book is like sitting in the living room on Superbowl Sunday with interviews from guys who share invaluable information not very obvious to most women.
I felt that Sherry is a sincere, caring person who is looking out for us, kind of like a favorite sister who gives you all the best advice.
I used this book to realize that a guy who I used to think "might be" (the one) was very smooth- he was messing with me in a subtle way thats difficult to spot except - thank God for this info! This is more than a book about relationships - the ideas helped me to expand my feminine intelligence to live in the world with confidence. I now have more confidence to pursue my career. I had 2nd thoughts as to whether going for my MBA was a good idea but I know now that life should be lived to the fullest.
As a woman in my mid-20s I thought that maybe guys my age weren't serious or mature enough yet to think about marriage but after reading this book and asking my guy friends about the material - they agreed and confessed that deep down they are just as serious as women about marriage but just waiting for the right one.
There are so many men in the world ready to exploit meetings with naive, well-intentioned women who just want todo the right thing and be good to society and be good to men. The "players" of the world know this and prey on these women (like I used to be). Sherry's book saved me and my female friends from so many potential traps from guys who use promises of committment and marriage as the bait.
For example, I used to listen to my 30-something roommate cry and sob about the mistakes she made, if only she was more, and the guy she loved so much. Now I realize that very little of the relationship was her fault, he was extremely selfish and manipulated her feelings the whole way through.
Why Men Marry B's helped me feel Real Self-Confidence and Dignity in myself-like a fresh breather, it feels great to take care of ME..and then I realized maybe I can do a little better when my self-esteem is whole :) I'm definitely worth all the time and energy I used to spend on others(!) |
Sherry is the Best!
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| Reviewer: Justine, Connecticut |
I must say, if I had "Why Men Marry Bitches" a while back, I probably would have gotten to the altar sooner! This book, in my opinion, is a must-have for those dating, already in a relationship OR married (I think), like me. The more I read it, and it's been several times, I am kicking myself because hindsight is the BEST sight, and Sherry sure provides that in practical yet witty prose. She really gives very direct, practical yet VERY readable advice laced with good humour, with the theme being this: women have to value themselves, have their own lives and treasure all that BEFORE, DURING and AFTER meeting the man/men who could be "the one". Sherry really takes a very direct approach to her subject matter; I especially liked the chapter on "Female Button Pushing". Whereas before I would have reacted a certain way if my spouse wanted to "push my buttons" and annoy me, Sherry advises not getting emotional and keeping one's cool. All the chapters are really informative and great, but another one that caught my attention is the chapter on "Joe Paycheck". Basically, it touches upon financial independence being a great asset to a woman in terms of desirability. No, not being a millionairess or having won the "diamond award" or "Realtor of the year" (though it is great for a woman to accomplish that!) for how many houses you've sold, but resourceful and willing to stand on your own two feet financially, showing that you are not going to be dependent on him. Boy, I know I am laying myself bare here, but that's one that I could've learned a long time ago. (Yes, I was among those who was not very savvy financially when it came to what I could contribute.)Ultimately, Sherry's advice really boils down not only to a woman being attractive to other men, but more importantly, a woman really being attractive to HERSELF. GO BABES! I really loved this book and recommmend it highly.
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Fantastic!
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| Reviewer: Katherine the GREAT, |
I recommend this book to every woman who wish to read a FANTASTIC and ENTERTAINING book abour relationship!
Sherry Argov is an AMAZING writer!!! "Why Men Marry Bitches" not only reflects why men behaves a certain way..... but Sherry had actually gathered all the information based on FACTS! They were based from the responses she had gathered from men! Therefore, this book is not based solely on a woman's perspective, but as well as from men themselves!
As Sherry had mentioned in her book, "Confident women are in VERY short supply and that a CONFIDENT woman is what men find the sexiest!" This book teaches woman to value herself! I greatly recommend you to find out why you will LOVE the book as much as I did! |
Title: This Is the Book for You!
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| Reviewer: Amazon Queen, |
Nothing short of phenomenal, this book is a MUST READ! Whether you desire most to walk down the isle adorned in an all white, or you just want to improve the overall caliber of your current dating relationship in general, this is the book for you. Both funny and self-empowering, this book is a more than suitable sequel to her bestseller whirlwind, Why Men Love Bitches. However, in this book Sherry Argov takes comedy to an entire new level.
A definite page turner, Why Men Marry Bitches, doesn't stop at just making your man eat right out of your hand and falling madly in love with you, it goes far beyond, allowing you to accomplish this while at all times, putting yourself first. It will be his natural reasoning, through his undeniable attraction to your independence and level of character. He will be enchanted and mesmerized by your ability to love AND be loved. If you couple action with the advice of Sherry Argov, you are destined to sport a rather attractive glistening diamond ring in no time. 5 Stars!
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Who gave her the keys?
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| Reviewer: A well-seasoned reader, Cleveland, OH USA |
I don't read self-help books. I certainly don't read female-oriented-self-help books. But Why Men Marry Bitches is a true gem. Trust the source - I must admit to having played (read: past tense) the field as well as the best of men, and was truly amazed at the level of depth and the extraordinary microscope used by Ms. Argov. Hey guys - who gave her the keys anyway?
With a keen sense of a seasoned analyst, expertise that clearly comes from interviewing Real Men, and a heck of a great sense of humor, Ms. Argov delivers an instant classic. I can't admit to all she finds about us, but I must admit to most of it. And being one clever woman, she not only exposes what we do (sometime subconsciously), but also provides a project plan for women to achieve what they want. And since I am out of circulation I can be a traitor and say to all you women: Go get that book - you'll laugh a lot, learn a lot, and maybe put her advice to use. Hey guys - go get the book as well, maybe we can learn how to change the strategy...
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Self confident women are indeed sexy, but her relationship advice is for the cavewoman
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| Reviewer: D. Parvin, Boston, MA USA |
The good news is that comedian Sherry Argov's relationship-advice focused "Why Men Marry Bitches" is an improvement on the dating-focused "Why Men Love Bitches." Her basic premise of men wanting self-confident, assertive, and competent women is dead on, and several of the 75 "relationship principles" are quite accurate. The bad news is that the majority of her advice is not only bad but potentially outright destructive to the majority of modern relationships. I come up with 3 stars after averaging a worthy 5 for the message of self-esteem with a 1 for some utterly bone-headed assumptions.
On the positive side, Argov's basic message is quite sound. To quote the author, "men want a competent woman who can think for herself, handle her business, take charge, and tell him to knock off the foolishness," and many of the 75 points explain exactly why this is the case. Some advice is dead on accurate; dressing for success, being yourself, realizing that you can't change someone, making sure you're happy with who you are and "standing up for what you believe in a decent and honest way" are all really good points that tackle some basic mistakes women who aren't experienced in relationships (and some who are) make. The underlying message of self-respect comes through loud and clear; unsurprisingly, the basic premise of "if a woman thinks all she has to offer is sex...(she's less desirable)" is the backbone of an entire chapter. Good stuff.
Where it fails miserably is her relationship advice. In fairness, there the occasional nugget or two like "Just like women can't get too many compliments, a man can't get too much appreciation for his contribution." Any number of psychologists will tell you the same but far more murkily, and warning women about an "attitude of entitlement" scaring men away is a valuable insight.
Unfortunately, despite her attempt to survey a number of men, Argov's knowledge of the male gender appears to be limited to what she's heard women describe men as and then attempting to confirm this opinion rather than the much harder task of trying to put herself in men's shoes. As such, there are rampant sexist and inaccurate assumptions. A particularly egregious stereotype is that "men (are) socialized to think women are the weaker sex," and that men "want to turn back the clock" and "jest about women in the police force...and military." The sole objective of a man with a woman is "obviously...to jump into bed." In short, men haven't evolved from the Cro-Magnon age.
With this shaky basis of understanding comes some pretty shaky advice. Men get turned off by "my clock is ticking" and "so where do we stand" according to Argov because it's "too obvious," where what truly turns off many are that children and marriage are a continuation of a great relationship, not a goal in and of itself. More troubling are tidbits like "avert a fight (over bad behavior)...with one sentence responses" and "negotiations should be 95% nonverbal." This may get women what they want near term, but if they can't come up with an effective way to communicate with their partners about such issues any relationship is in real danger longer term. Men can be made to cook dinner by a deal agreeing that whomever gets home first does so, except if the woman gets home early they should drive around randomly to make sure he does instead. This resembles the disastrous advice in her first book about how a woman whose husband didn't want to pay for housekeeping services simply claimed to spend a little more for grocery shopping and paid for it that way behind his back. Anyone who follows this advice is going down a path of behavior that can really lead to two issues that can destroy most relationships - control and trust. It may work for a while, but if you're not careful your next book will be Shirley Glass' Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity as a postmortem since you probably won't have a working relationship for long.
Still, her advice on self-esteem is worth a read especially for those in the midst of a bad relationship. Argov is a comedian by training, and the book is relatively funny. However, using the messily divorced Meg Ryan and Kim Basinger's words as points to live by really nails the problem: often good thoughts, but incredibly bad application since strangely enough, ultimately they weren't able to make their relationships work.
Instead, for the non-professionals, Greg Behrendt offers a lot more insight into the male mind with He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys, and Carolyn Hax a lot more reasonable advice on how healthy relationships function with Tell Me About It: Lying, Sulking, Getting Fat... and 56 Other Things Not to Do While Looking for Love. For more heavy duty problems, try Haltzman's "Secrets" series - the book targeted towards women is The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less but both are worth reading - and John Gottman's large body of work, starting with Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last. |
Hands down best relationship book ever written!!
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| Reviewer: Deborah Ward, Columbia Station, OH United States |
| Being married over 10 years, and reading many books on the subject of "How to improve your relationship", I can truly say that none of the advice I had been given really helped my marriage. It wasn't until I read this amazing book that I understood why my relationship with my husband had been lacking. My life was so absorbed in his life, that I didn't have a life of my own. The more I tried to make things work in my marriage, the less respect I received from my husband. Since reading Sherry Argov's book, I have literally told every woman I know about it. Women need to be informed about "men's secret games", and more importantly, women need to know how to avoid being taken advantage of by these games. It doesn't matter if you are simply dating or whether you have been married 10 years, the advice in this book will not only improve your relationship, but it will help you respect and love yourself. Men always think that confident women are "HOT". Sherry shows you how to become this type of woman!! Thank you Sherry from the bottom of my heart!! You have given me the tools I need to save my troubled marriage, and my troubled self esteem. You are a genius!! |
The Only Dating Book You Will Ever Need
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| Reviewer: Ozma, NYC |
Let me tell you, I've read so many manuals about how to "win" a man's affection, or "trick" him into loving you. Now I tell you, THROW EVERY OTHER DATING BOOK OUT THE WINDOW because this book will tell you everything you need to know. Other self-help books perpetuate the mindset of neediness, making your self-worth dependent on the approval of a man.
NO MORE OF THIS NONSENSE! No more bending over backwards for a man, only so he can be turned off by your overt efforts and run far away. As you read Sherry's book, You feel as though your having a down to earth chat with someone who knows all the secrets to lasting love..and she reveals each and every one. Plus, Sherry is so funny, she puts you in great spirits and you feel emboldened. This book makes you feel confident, and glowing with the playful independence that will make the guy in your life see what a dream girl you truly are.
I cannot believe how this book has turned my love life around.
Now, not only do I have my dream guy wrapped around my finger, I feel absolutely fantastic about who I am.
"Relationship Principle 48: Many men reduce women to a set of givens. A man relies on the fact that...he'll be able to push your emotional buttons...When he can't, he'll often crumble and become the more vulnerable one in the relationship." This book helps you turn the tables on men, so that you aren't the one begging and obsessing over the relationship.. he is.
No more settling for less, no more feelings of inadequacy. Healthy attitudes, positive relationships, and having crazy fun being the spicy, intelligent, independent girl that men fantacize about. That's what dreams are made of. You MUST read this book! Best of luck! |
FUNNY AS CAN BE--IT WILL CRACK YOU UP.
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| Reviewer: Sammy, Richmond, VA |
I saw this book on my sister's coffee table and picked it up and then couldn't put it down. My girlfriend kept asking me if I thought the advice was accurate and I had to admit that it was. It was too much information for my girlfriend to have.
The best chapter is called, "FEMALE BUTTON PUSHING" about how guys test women by annoying them. It's true. We want to do a mental fitness test to make sure the girl doesn't have a loose screw. I'm not sure I want women having that much information about guys. I think the author should write a book about how women push men's buttons to even the score.
I think this is one of the few relationship books that makes sense--it's not telling women to act desperate to rush to the altar. Dignity is a turn on to a guy. No question most guys would agree with that.
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Every Woman Needs This Book
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| Reviewer: Reality Checker, Brooklyn, NY |
| This book is perfect for those in relationships who aren't sure how to keep the fires burning and keep their men interested. It's a fact that men relax in relationships sometimes and women let them and are then surprised that things aren't progressing. This book encourages women to keep their independence and value themselves enough to not be afraid to lose a man if he doesn't give you what you want. It's okay if a man doesn't want to get married. And it's okay that a woman wants to get married. But it's NOT okay for them to stay together as there is really no compromise in that situation. The advice given by Ms. Argov is brilliant. The phrasing she suggests a woman use is perfect. She has a vision of women that, I believe, is beautiful. Strong and proud yet loving. Never demanding. Never mean or nagging. Simply gracious and accepting that men are simply different. I wish more women thought this way. The biggest issue destroying relationships is the fact that men and women expect each other to behave the way THEY do. It's impossible. And since men don't read all this stuff, I feel it's our responsibility to do what we can. Again, it may be unfair but that's the way it is. |
Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart
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| Reviewer: Dianedancelover, |
| I cannot begin to say how women have needed these books, Why Men Marry Bitches and Why Men Love Bitches. Of course, Bitch means something a little different in these books. Sherry Argov is fantastic in both books, the newest one coming on shelves now, Why Men Marry Bitches. I've read both unable to put them down, and I'm not a "book person". These books will help you understand men including male members in your families and all is coming to light for me now. These are great books and are fun easy reads! It will change the destiny of lives. I've wasted years of not understanding men, mostly because I had no real role models growing up. These books work and in a short time too. It has been fun experimenting with Ms. Argov's answers to questions we all have. I already feel better about myself and the advice I've already seen work. The man I've seen for a long time doesn't really understand my changes or know what is going on but should I say he's changing. I don't know if he deserves me now after reading these books and all I've endured from him. But, it has been fun trying out these books on him! I get tickled sometimes. Now, for the first time, I feel like I have ammunition, mostly to protect my emotions. I've bought and recommended them to friends and co-workers.Thank you Ms. Argov! |
Why Men Marry Bitches
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| Reviewer: dendrite, Orange County, CA |
| Sherry Argov's delightful book is a must read for any self-respecting woman! Her humorous anecdotes help teach women how important it is to believe in themselves despite the obstacles we encounter. I found her book empowering and uplifting. For example, she emphasizes why maintaining our own 'pink slip' is very attractive. I think a lot of women fear that if they stand up for themselves, they will scare men away. In fact, the exact opposite is often the case. Men like to take advantage of meek women, those lacking a 'spine'. Men find a woman who has a mind of her own a real turn-on. Mind you, it's not that they want a woman who is argumentative, but rather, they respect the woman who is not afraid to express her opinion so that they know how to please HER. Men often need to be guided by the woman to understand her desires. This helps strengthen the relationship and brings the couple closer together. I think this book is especially valuable for the professional woman, because it highlights why men are attracted to women who have their own careers. In summary, I loved this book and hope you take the opportunity to read it! |
The best book out there on relationships!!!!
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| Reviewer: N.S., Bay Area, CA |
| This is such an awsome book. I read the first book (Why men love bitches)so quickly that I wanted more and bought this as well. It was so validating yet so full of information on how to truely play the game of relationships. I've been wanting info. like this for so long...thank God for Sherry Argov! Maybe her next book should be why men stay married to Bitches!!! I loved every bit of it!! Very funny and informative! |
LOVE LOVE LOVE It
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| Reviewer: Savvy Heart Throb, The Planet's My Playground |
This is by far the best women's relationship guide EVER!!!
It is so practical and centered it speaks directly to the heart of the issue and the heart of the reader. A must for women seriously seeking to turn their love lives around.
If you've made silly mistakes in the past that you don't want to repeat (especially since you've done the same thing again and again - yeah sometimes it takes us a while to wake up) READ THIS INCREDIBLY INSIGHTFUL BOOK.
I have already read it 10 times.
Sherry Argov truly has put her all into this one.
Enjoy |
A Must Read For Single Women
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| Reviewer: Bookworm, Castries, St Lucia |
| I was curious to read the theories behind why men marry 'bad' girls or whether they do at all. Actually, "bitches" in the book did not mean bad girls- it meant women who are strong, positive, ambitious, confident and set high standards.This book was great for me, because while I am all of these, I tend to overextend myself in relationships- because that's also how I am. I love to spoil my partner (provided its reciprocal). This book certanly opened my eyes to the way men think and the way they process things. I recently started dating a very successful, kind guy who is also very cautious where relationships are concerned. He has never been married but I have realised that he is NOT committment phobic, just very cautious. For once in my life, I feel that I have actually met a man whom I can marry, so there I was trying to rush the process along. He was saying to me...let's take our time with this, let's get to know each other. This book made me realise that I cannot rush this and I need to savour the efforts he is making at wooing me. I am now relaxing and enjoying his attempts to "win" me. I have read the book three times and find it witty and so applicable. Since I have applied many of the principles of the book to my current relationship, I am definitely more certain that it's headed somewhere. That's because I am making him chase me...until I catch him! |
Where Was This Book 25 Years Ago Before I Walked Down the "Wrong" Aisle????
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| Reviewer: Cynthia Beare, Calgary, Canada |
Why Men Marry Bitches, is a hilarious page turner! I don't know whether I laughed more about the things I learned about how men's minds work, or at looking back at my "nice girl" mistakes in the past. Certainly had I had this book years ago, I could have avoided a lot of heartache and pain that I created for myself in the past.
Sherry Argov did a fabulous job of researching this book, by talking to countless men and then recounting their insights/stories in a series of short but powerful "lessons". I am eager and ready to apply this new found knowledge, when I meet my next "potential Mr. Right"! In the meantime, I will enjoy re-reading the book, as I know it will be great to reinforce the many new things I have learned about the minds of men and how they look at love, marriage and commitment!
A must read for any single woman and for those of you in relationships, who can't figure out that man of yours! |
AWESOME- and helpful... This book should be tax-deductible!
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| Reviewer: Hip Banker Chick, San Francisco, California |
It is impossible not to devour this book in a single sitting! I'm a busy chick, yet I found myself taking a night in to finish Miss Sherry's amazing book.
Thanks to this book, I had the joy of laughing my head off while reading the chapter called "Breaking Into the Boys Club", and not a breathy light laugh but a real, belly-rooted guffaw. Why Men MARRY Bitches is hilarious and fun to read (I even got two of my anti-chick-book friends to read it- and THAT means a lot!), but it is also helpful. The information you get from this book is directly from Sherry's research with men, so it's both heart-warming and irritatingly true. (but when it's irritatingly true, at least she cuts the crap you usually hear and gets to the dirt- how you should react/what to do/etc)
I find that after reading this book, I feel more relaxed and I feel more respect for men. Don't get me wrong, I love the beasts(I work in a male-dominated field, so I'd better get along with them!) but this book makes me understand their side of the dating game. Sherry teaches you how to ENJOY dating, which I never believed was possible, because she gives you permission to just be yourself. It's such a huge relief to hear a woman's voice telling you to live up your own life in your way.
This book is a MUST HAVE! It confirms your nagging gut instinct, that one that tells you there is a better way to live and that you can enjoy (not despise, but enjoy) dating. This book does a real service for men and women- it should really be tax-deductible. Okay, seriously though, this is a book you will easily read several times. It's a lifesaver. |
Necessary Read
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| Reviewer: ShaynaPunim, Jersey City, New Jersey USA |
| This book is truly the only book necessary to read about men. It doesn't advocate games or 'rules' or useless techniques. Rather, it instills a mindset of being in control of YOURSELF. In the end, it really isn't about "getting" the guy or "figuring him out". Those days are "so over"!! You learn about how to treat yourself and in this manner you teach him how to treat you. See, it's a matter of HIM fitting into YOUR life... not your having to ACCOMODATE HIS WHIMS. Most important, by valuing who you are, you are helping to bring out the best in him! What a read! |
The Female Bible
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| Reviewer: Rita Almella, San Francisco, CA |
This book defines all the alluring and irresistable qualities of a strong independent female in today's world. Sherry has a brilliant approach on dating, relationship, and of course the "M" word, Marriage. Her principles definitely have me wake up in the morning and tell myself that "I am force not to be reckoned with."
I love turning the tables on my guy. I have Sherry's principles written on post it notes around my house to remind me to, "Quit trippen and have an appetite for life." However, I do wish I had this book during my fun college years it would've saved me a whole lot of B.S.. I recomend this book to every female out there single or married.
It's time to create an revolution and show our guys that we are very much capable of playing hard ball, even if it's on their court.
Ms.Zarita Yan
24 yrs. old
San Francisco, CA |
A MUST-READ for all the Females out there!
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| Reviewer: Energizer Bunny, Monterey, CA |
Wow...
This is the best written dating guide I've ever read. I've read many before this one, but none of them was giving me all the practical tips that I could use in my real life situation. Most of the previous books were very conceptional that I figured that those were not really helping me out.
I want to be equipped with some dating strategies before I start a new relationship sooner or later. Sherry's giving me all the information I need to know about men as well as all the laughs I can enjoy. I wish I had read before I failed all the previous relationships.
Now, I know how to play the tricks of relationships, so I feel alot more confident than ever before! Now, I just have to look for a new victim to apply all the tips that I got from the book.
After I try out all the tips I got from her, I may be able to see how much this book helps me out. Even if I don't find a victim to apply all the tricks, at least I know how to be happy with who I'm and what I have.
Thank God! Sherry made me feel empowered!
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A must read for every woman!
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| Reviewer: tennisstar82, |
| A perfect addition to the original! This book will make you laugh and search deep within yourself at the same time. It is an important book for any woman to read who has trouble getting what she wants from a relationship. The first book, along with this one, have turned my life around. I highly recommend this book to every friend (which is most of them) who is controlled by a man. Learn to regain your strength and self worth!!! |
Beware the button pushers!
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| Reviewer: Sock Club, |
Stop watching all that newlywed celebrity reality show nonsense. Quit asking your dysfunctional family for dating advice. Instead read this funny, empowering book and just be happy, with or without a man.
This book's bitch is a woman who figures out if a man truly loves her with a no-tears approach.
Getting the facts directly from the source, i.e., real men, Sherry reveals how to determine if you're with a bad boy or a good man so if you're with a bad boy, you can dump him and save a tree because you'll be buying less Kleenex for sure. Even if you're with a good man, you need to read the chapter about female button pushing. It's shockingly true!
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Why Men Marry Bitches
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| Reviewer: J. Asher, Arizona |
| I always wondered what certain girlfriends seemed to know that I didn't. The girlfriends that have the husbands who adore them year after year and the girlfriends with the boyfriends who want to marry them. Although smart enough, it wasn't until I read Why Men Marry Bitches that it all made sense for me. Sherry shares her uncanny insight into what brings out the best or worst behaviour in a man. The good news for women is that by taking care of yourself and focusing on your own interests and dreams not only do you create a better quality of life for yourself, you also invite far better behaviour from the men in your life. This book offers very specific examples of how to convey to men that you are #1. Tips such as not returning a man's call immediately and instead calling them back when it's convenient for you can change the entire romantic balance of a relationship for the better. This book is written in an intelligent and humorous style and the ideas in it have worked for me! |
Excellent!!
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| Reviewer: Demita Usher, Reseda, Ca United States |
| The first book was the appetizer, this book is the main course. There are not enough words to describe how great this book is. This book and the first one are helpful to women and if they put their emotions aside and soak it in, they will be much more succesful in their dealing with men. I wish I had this book 10-12 years ago. I will definitley tell my friends!The "he just not that into you" book gave you the dots, Sherry's book makes the dots BIGGER and shows you how to connect them! |
Hilariously Accurate
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| Reviewer: Pyotr Velikiy, Los Angeles, CA United States |
| I just read through this book and it was the most fun of all the advice books I've seen recently. While the author does not take herself too seriously, she does give serious advice in a very entertaining way. As a guy, it's clear that she actually did interview men to get a proper perspective. Whether you are looking for love advice or just looking for a fun summer beach read, this book will leave you feeling good about yourself and your love life. |
Her best book yet!
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| Reviewer: Ashley from Chicago, |
| This is so funny that its better than any episode of Sex In The City! Ladies, tell all your girlfriends to run out and get this book. Its uplifting, hilarious and will make you belly-laugh the whole way through. I feel like I stand taller after every chapter. |
The only book you'll ever need when it comes to dating
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| Reviewer: Sweet Bee, New York, NY |
This books is an excellent read because it empowers women to put themselves first when it comes to relationship with a man. It decodes many of the ambiguous signs that guys put out there so that they take hold of how the relationship should progress (or not progress). It also offers solution on how to deal with the pitfalls of dating a man.
Ms. Argov has given us a gift of a book on how to find our self-esteem, self-respect, self worth, and independence when it comes to entering a relationship with a man. Ladies, there's no need to search for a good dating book. This is the ONLY book you'll ever need. Ms. Argov is my hero!
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Attitude is Everything
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| Reviewer: Book Diva, Junction City, KS |
| This is a must read for all women, single or married. Sherry's writing style and sense of humor are right on. I've already used a few of the techniques in this book on a guy I am currently dating and it works. My guy friend now calls me when he says and can't wait to see me. I am now the one in control of what I want in a man. Thank you Diva Sherry! |
Great Book!
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| Reviewer: G. Morse, |
| I would definitely recommend this book. This book has a lot of practical information to help a women keep her self-respect in a relationship and not lose herself by changing to be what the man thinks he wants. I have just ended a long-term relationship where I felt I did everything he wanted and needed, because I loved him, and in the end, he had no respect for me. I will expect the next man to take me as I am, and if that's not good enough, he can move on! Great Book!! |
Pure Brilliance
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| Reviewer: Momma knows best, Washington, D.C. |
| I loved this book! It really helps a woman to gain perspective on her dating history. We all know most men you've dated will rarely tell why they really did the things they did, at least not in a way that you could apply to your dating future. But this book does. With every turn of the page the confusion and frustration falls away and is replaced with such clarity! Also, it makes you stop wondering if it was how you look or your weight etc., etc. This book is practical and realistic, and it makes so much sense. I'm excited about what the future has in store with such an amazing weapon. BUY THIS BOOK! |
Hahahahahaha!
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| Reviewer: J. Perez, San Diego, CA |
| This book had me laughing outloud when I previewed it at the bookstore and when I was reading it at home. Although, I do believe that a more accurate title would be "Why GOOD Men Marry Bitches". My philosophy and experience have told me there are men out there who definitely go for and eventually marry the women that Argov supposedly says men DON'T go for e.g. the whiners, manipulators, the ones who ask "where's my ring?", etc. However, the book does give good ideas to keep in mind when dating. So, even if you don't believe in Argov's ideas, at least she gives you a good laugh. |
Hilarious
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| Reviewer: Chelsey, Boston, MA USA |
| Some women may use this as a guide to man catching, but I think everyone, men included, should read this. Sherry's observations and sarcastic examples of how mindless women behave are sharp and will make anyone laugh out loud. If you are guilty of behaving this way, you may even laugh at yourself. I love this book. |
A MUST read for every single woman who wants marriage!
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| Reviewer: Reader 1000, New York, NY |
| The is an excellent book for every woman who wonders why her relationships with men are not working out. It's easy to understand and put to use. To sum it up- it's about confidence. "Why Men Marry Bitches" gives useful insight into the minds of men and helps you get the committed relationship you've been searching for. Thanks Sherry! |
The Power of Self Respect & Positive Behavior.
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| Reviewer: Anne Gans, |
| Sherry Argov did it again. Another faboulous book. Why Men Love Bithches to Why Men Marry Bithches. It is Sensational. She speaks the simple truth. How we all want to be treated & how to attain it. She reveals what men really need, want, & how they think about things that women need to know. Giving women the control with out men even knowing it. So that we are treated as we all desire. Treated lovingly & respectfully. The best part is, it is all positive. This book is just amazing. Thank You Sherry!!! |
Women can take control of their relationships
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| Reviewer: Brynna Z. Malen, |
| Sherry Argov is amazing, insightful and gutwrenchingly honest in both her new book, "Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning her Man's Heart", just as she was in her original book, "Why Men Love Bitches: from Doormat to Dreamgirl". Sherry has created a book that will empower women to understand that they do not have to put up with unsatisfactory and disrespectful behavior and treatment from men. She shows all women how to become a "bitch", or an independent, loving yet strong and desirable woman, and how to decipher the difference between a good man and a bad one. I strongly recommend this book for every heterosexual woman at all ages having trouble "reading" the opposite sex. A fantastic read! |
Sherry Argov "Why Men MARRY Bitches" is SPOT ON as a Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart
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| Reviewer: April Braswell, Las Vegas, NV |
If you are a fan of Sherry Argov from her first dating and relationship book for women, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship, and you are IN a relationship and desire to segue to MARRIAGE, this is a wonderful, wonderful book. Indeed, even before reading this book for my work as a Dating and Relationship Expert, I managed to live out a number of the sage dating and real courtship advise she suggests with such warmth and whimsy in how my late husband courted me.
She purports so wisely that modern men are turned on by sexy women who hold their own in a relationship and are CONFIDENT as women, not just as executive business women. I Loved her chapter on letting his chase you until you catch him. That is literally the phrase my late husband used to describe our courtship.
Whether you love and adore every single word of advise she utters, if you read this book and implement even 27% of in your dating and mating life, you'd be engaged within 18 months with a man who ADORES you... and says it and his behavior testifies to it.
HIGHLY recommend |
Hat's Off to Sherry for a Great Book! Men Love Women Who Love Themselves
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| Reviewer: Barbara Rose, BornToInspire.com |
I really like this book! It's a great read, no holes barred, tell it like it REALLY is book, and it's the TRUTH!
Who YOU are, what you love, your individual preferences and your backbone to dare to have the courage to be and express yourself EXACTLY as YOU want to, gives you the backbone, and the real inner confidence that is essential to a relationship - that you CAN LIVE WITHOUT - so you never buckle under and compromise your truth and dignity for anyone, ever.
Also, you're not NEEDY, you are LIVING and being just who you are, and if he doesn't like it, then he can buy a doormat at the local auto supply shop.
It takes GUTS and tremendous SELF LOVE to really be yourself, and feel complete solo - then a surprising thing happens, because you don't need, you receive! And He receives the best too, once you know who you are, and what you're REALLY all about, you'll have the confidence that can sustain a great, EQUAL relationship.
The key here, sisters, is that he has to win YOU over. YOUR GENUINE CONFIDENCE AND BEING YOUR REAL SELF IS THE KEY!
There's great guidance in this book, and I honestly salute Sherry for writing it! Awesome!
Barbara Rose, author of Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE
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