A Few folks have asked how to get chicks on AshMad or other dating sites.. it can be tough. I don’t know the numbers, but it seems like there are about 100 guys for every hot chick. And some of the “girls” are not girls, but idiot guys with no life and like to Chat. Or they are too ugly or too afraid to actually walk their talk, and will do nothing but waste your time or want to “chatsex” with you. Boring!

I’ve spent a couple months studying what works and what doesn’t and have had some real successes. I’m happy to pass along some of my lessons learned. I’ll write em up whenever I can, and post them. Happy to hear of anything that you have found that works… never too late to learn! I still have 80 something chicks to convince to fuck me!

Here are a couple off the top of my head… I’ll get more detailed when I have time.

1. I never go for the younger girls. I can get them at coffee shops. On AshMad I look for the married, 30-40 MILF who are so bored or frustrated that they will do ANYTHING to you, for whatever desperate reasons they have. Young girls have so many offers that it is nearly impossible to get their attention and they are way too high maintenance.

2. I never go for the single girls… same reason as above. Some of these chicks are looking for sugardaddies, and while I support that, AshMad is not the place for it. There are several good websites where the girls are hotter and easier to deal with if that is you thing.

3. I try to target women from the suburbs. I rarely go for girls from San Francisco or San Jose… I try for those in Concord, Walnut Creek or Petaluma or Sonoma. You want a small town girl that doesn’t have much other opportunity to do this sort of thing and that has something to lose if it becomes public.

Lots more to come…

By 100 Girls in 1 Year

Suicide Girl was a bit of a bummer. Of course I still had sex with her since I’m a guy think with the little head when I am in bed with a chick, and because I need the numbers for my Quest, but I really should have just kissed her forehead and left soon after I got there. Sad case…. miserable life and she likes to re-live the miserable parts… Guess the SuicideGirl thing is more than skin deep.

I met her at her apartment that she shares with her roommate and her roommate’s unhappy cat. We sat on her bed and I listened to her. Just nodded and said “hmmmm…” a lot. After an hour or so, I just reached out and started to take off her shirt. She hardly flinched and didn’t stop talking. I spent the next half hour half listening to her while I sucked on her sweet little breasts that each had a tattoo and a nipple ring. Never really thought much about nipple rings before, but I have to admit they are kind of sexy.

My body was turned on, my brain was turned off…. my body won, of course. Moved down to her well groomed (a nice surprise) kitty and had my fun there. Clit was pierced too of course, and I am not opposed to that either. She barely noticed I was there. I didn’t even bother with a blowjob, or trying to really get her into it. Just played with her body and tried to tune out her talking and sighs. Finally I just turned her over spread her legs and fucked her from behind lying flat on top of her and pushing her head into the pillow. She shut up for awhile, but started in again as soon as I was done. I split as soon as I could… she seemed resigned to it. She thanked me for spending time with her and said I was a really nice guy.

Strange, sad little girl. Perfect little slutty body, fucked up brain. Maybe just too young somehow. What a difference between her and my little 19 year old cleaning girl… I need another session with her to wash this one out of my brain.

Another one down, but not a very fun one. 87 to go!

By 100 Girls in 1 Year

God Bless the dudes that started Ashley Madison! They really hit on something, and while there are lots of other sites out there, I’ve never found one that worked as well… and no they don’t pay me! But maybe I should ask them to host this blog….hmmm..

Some of you have emailed or commented that you want some tips on how to use AshMad best… I do have some things to share and I’ll do so when I get a couple minutes… my first priority is to get myself laid, then I’ll help you…

Speaking of which… date tonight with that dark little Suicide Girl. Not sure about this one… she is physically perfect for me, tiny and slutty looking, but I get the feeling that she is going to talk a lot about how miserable her life is. I’ve talked to her on the phone a couple times and texted back and forth a little now. I’m a type A kind of guy and naturally want to get people to figure out how to fix themselves – which almost no one appreciates. I will have to try and hold my tongue, or use it for purposes other than talking. We’ll see. I am prepared for the worst, and will hope for the best.

Still don’t have a third girl for this week… need to stop hanging out with Girl #2 on the weekends so I can catch up… I’m still one girl short for my goal right now.

By 100 Girls in 1 Year

31 years old, Asain babe married to a somewhat successful sports star here in the Bay Area. (Hope I’m not giving away too much.) He is on the road a lot and cheats on her all the time. She listens to Howard Stern, heard an ad for AshMad and decided to play the same game. Basically she was out for revenge and for a good time, and I was very happy to help on both counts.

About 5’3″, 105 lbs, limber, in great shape, hair too short and kind of angry, but was a lot of fun in bed. Got a hotel in the city (Hyatt Regency, top floor) about 5pm, had a drink in the bar downstairs, went to the room, checked out the view. I stood behind her and fondled her breasts a little, nibbled on her neck, and a few seconds later she was naked and we were in the shower together.

Married girls are so much less inhibited than single girls, and they are usually sexually bored, frustrated or, in her case, out for revenge… with these types I usually start off with the nastiest things, just to see what they are up for… She was up for anything. I had my tongue in her ass before I even kissed her, and she was squealing. Pretty soon I was showing her how to hold her head so she could deep throat me without gagging too much. She gagged anyway and threw up her drink, but it wasn’t too bad and she was determined to get it right… I assume this was the revenge part, because it is rare to find a girl that eager to do something that submissive so quickly.

We fucked for a couple hours, went to dinner, fucked some more, made a real mess of the bathroom and bed, and called it a night just after 11. She had to get home so her husband wouldn’t get suspicious when he called. I went home completely sated. Felt a little sorry for her… her marriage will not end well, and she will probably regret tonight, but I won’t. And I bet she wants to do it again.

By 100 Girls in 1 Year

Met a Suicide Girls model yesterday in SF. She is one of these typical young, skater, dark, frownie types that hang out in coffee shops with lots of tattoos and piercings… A little like Girl #6 but less happy and has no money. You could see her nipple piercings through her skimpy white t-shirt with no bra. I just love this look. Quickly struck up a conversation and when she asked me what I doing there, I handed her my Quest card and told her the whole story of the 100 Girls in 1 Year. That’s when she told me she had posed for one of the Suicide Girls books/website. She showed me her pic on the website, and the pics of some of her friends, and I figured I was in.

Damn these Suicide Girls are amazing. If you haven’t checked them out, do it quickly www.suicidegirls.com. They just have such a “fuck the world, then fuck me hard” sort of look to them. Kinda sad, but ultra sexy. Very skinny, very dark and slutty all over.

I’m meeting her at her apartment Thursday afternoon. I’m pretty sure sex is a sure thing. That gives me two for the week… need to find one more!

By 100 Girls in 1 Year

Why do women have affairs? There are many answers to this question, and if every woman who had an affair answered they would all probably say different things. There are some common reasons why a woman will have an affair, but each situation is unique and different, and may be caused by a number of factors. A big reason for an affair is opportunity. Women work outside the home in many households, and at the end of the day both spouses are tired. At work each spouse interacts closely with other people, and a mutual attraction may develop between the spouse and a coworker. Being in close proximity to another individual frequently can also cause an affair to happen. Some women have sexual relationships and affairs that are in the open, such as in open marriages or couples who swing. Most affairs are the type which are supposed to be secret however.

Many women have an affair to fill an emotional need. If their spouse takes them for granted or has stopped paying attention then a woman may start an affair to feel attractive and desirable again. The excitement of a new relationship is another reason that women may have an affair. For some women this excitement is addictive, and they may have a string of affairs in search of these heightened sensations. A woman may have an affair even if her husband is a good provider and helps around the house if she feels neglected as a person or a lover.

Women who stay at home and take care of the household and small children are not immune from an affair. Women who stay at home with children all day tend to feel isolated, and this can leave them feeling lonely. Just because a woman has become a mother this does not remove her feelings and needs as a woman. Being cooped up in a house all day with no one to talk to can be trying, and an affair can happen in this situation as well. Some women have affairs simply because of the thrill, while others do it to meet an unfulfilled emotional or social need.

A lack of sexual or dating experience can also be the root of an affair for women. Many women marry very young, and in some cases these women marry their first love. This causes a lack of experience, and as the woman gets older she may start to wonder if she has missed out on anything. An affair can be a way for her to find out what dating feels like and determine whether she wants to stay in the marriage or if freedom may be the best choice. The reasons a woman may start an affair are numerous, and so are the desired results. Some women may start an affair in the hopes of getting caught, in an attempt to leave an unhappy marriage. Other women take extensive steps to ensure that their affair is never discovered, and still love their husband and do not want their marriage destroyed.

Extramarital affairs are a common occurrence in the modern world, and many studies show that between sixty and eighty percent of the population will have an affair at some point. Reasons that affairs occur are numerous, but the undeniable fact is that an affair can offer many benefits. The spouse who is having an affair may be more confident, because they feel more attractive and have a higher self esteem. An affair can also provide attention that may be lacking at home. As time goes by it is common for spouses to take each other for granted, and they no longer feel the need to compliment or be attentive to the their significant other. A new partner does not have these issues, and an affair can provide attention that may be missing from the marriage.

An affair can make you feel good about yourself emotionally, or make you feel sexy and desirable once again. Over time as you get more comfortable with your spouse, and the newness and excitement of the relationship wears off, the initial thrill palls and you find the relationship changes. An affair can start a sexual spark that is ignited by lust, for sex that is exciting and previously unexplored territory. Affairs can also bring the benefit of emotional closeness and support, and this is a common reason why women cheat but less common for men. An emotional bond may be formed during the affair that is missing with the spouse inside the marriage, leaving an emotional need that the affair fills.

Sometimes an affair can have the benefit of making the spouse who cheats pay more attention to their significant other. Another benefit is that an affair can level the playing field if both spouses have different sex drives. Having sex outside the marriage can relieve the partner who is not as sexually active from feeling pressured or expected to act in a way they do not feel. In some cases an affair may actually lessen the strain and friction in a marriage, as long as discretion is used. Cheating can occur because the individual is angry with their spouse, and an affair can help resolve these feelings of anger and resentment so that the emotions do not affect the relationship and marriage.

There are many ways that an affair can benefit an individual, as long as caution is used and safety is the most important factor. Secrecy is critical, because if an affair is found out it could lead to divorce in some cases. Extramarital affairs can boost your self esteem and confidence, and spice up your love life as well. Monogamy is not right for everyone, and you may feel constrained or become unhappy in your marriage if it is not possible to have secret affairs. A marriage is better when both partners are happy and relaxed, and in some cases this is exactly what an affair can provide. As long as you take every possible precaution to keep this activity hidden and your spouse is not hurt then an affair is nothing to feel guilty about.

A key element to a successful affair is not getting caught, and there are some tips and advice that can help you with this issue. The best time to prevent getting caught is before the affair starts, and there are some steps you can take initially to ensure that any affairs stay secretive. You should sign up for an email account that your spouse does not know about, using Gmail, Hotmail, or another email service. This account will be the one you use for all correspondence and communication during your affair, so that your spouse does not come across any incriminating messages or photos. Another excellent tip is to rent a Post Office Box. This will allow you to have a mailing address that is secret, and this box is used for all bills, letters, and other mail which is relevant to an affair.

Once you have set up a new email account and you have a P.O. Box with the post office you have taken the first steps to not getting caught in an affair. Another common reason why affairs are discovered are phone records. Never call your lover from either your home phone or a cell phone if your spouse can access these records. Incoming and outgoing calls can be determined with the phone bills, and this could lead to your affair coming to light. A better option is to purchase a disposable cell phone that does not require any contracts or agreements, and that your spouse is not aware of. Use this phone for all affair related calls, from reserving a hotel room for a date to talking to your lover.

One big mistake if you are having an affair and want to avoid being caught is to bring your lover home, or to go to their home if they are married as well. This activity can leave clues to the affair, and a better choice is to always go somewhere that your spouse will never be, such as a hotel room. If you travel out of town on business frequently then this can be an ideal opportunity to have an affair in another city or state, which greatly lowers the odds of your spouse finding out about your extramarital activities.

When you are out on a date with your new lover choose places which are secluded or discreet. If you do not keep a low profile, and are having an affair in the town where both you and your spouse live, word will get out and you could very well end up busted by a neighbor or family friend. Never give out your home phone number or address, although is your lover searches these can probably be found using public information online. Another big tip is to be completely upfront in what you are looking for from an affair, and do not make promises that you do not plan on keeping to your lover. This can result in your affair becoming public knowledge when your lover feels betrayed or slighted, and possibly an explicit phone call explaining the entire affair to your spouse.

Extramarital affairs have become very common, and the facts and statistics on these affairs can be astounding. Ninety percent of Americans morally believe that adultery is wrong, but only thirty five percent believed that this activity should have legal consequences. Roughly twenty percent of all divorce cases are the result of extramarital affairs, and women have affairs in almost the same percentages as men, especially when the younger age groups are studied. Around ten percent of men will develop an addiction to cybersex, while the numbers are somewhat lower for women. One interesting statistic is that less than three percent of affairs which cause a divorce result in a serious relationship and marriage between the affair partners once the initial divorce proceeding is finished.

Did you know that:

•More than 60% of married men will have at least one affair during their life.

•Close to 45% of married women will have at least one affair during their life.

•When younger age groups are studies, women are just as likely to have an extramarital affair as men are.

•70% of women who were married were unaware that their spouse was having an affair, while 54% of married men were not aware of this activity with their spouse.

•Many people may have numerous affairs during their marriage, and this is true of women as well as men.

•When affair partners do get caught, and end up getting married eventually, the rate of divorce is more than 75% for these couples.

•At least one in every three couples will be affected by an extramarital affair, and the actual numbers are believed to be higher than this.

•10% of all extramarital affairs will last a day or less, and are usually considered one night stands or one time occurrences.

•10% of all affairs will not last a month, although they do last longer than a single day.

•Roughly half of all affairs will involve a time period of more than one month but less than one year.

•Between 35% and 40 % of affairs may last at least two years, but not more than four years.

•Very few affairs, generally less than 3%, will last for four years or more.

•46% of men believed that an online affair did not constitute cheating, and that this activity was harmless.

•Around 70% of online activity is romantically related, with chat rooms and emails playing large roles in affairs.

•Between 43% and 55% of women who were married reported having an affair at some point in the past, while the numbers for married men was between 55% and 65%.

•Up to 80% believe that it is okay to chat and flirt with the opposite sex online.

•A 57% majority have reported that they are married but flirt using the Internet anyways.

•Around 33% of affairs have started because of online activity.

•65% of married women and 75% of married men have reported at least one affair with a co-worker, and many reported numerous affairs with people they work with.

•More than 80% reported frequent flirting at work, and this percentage is true for both men and women.

1. Life is short.  Why not enjoy it?  Why waste precious time trapped in a sex starved relationship or marriage?
2. Everybody does it.  So even if an affiar is considered a taboo subject, the truth is that affairs are almost as common as any other activity in our society.  In fact, statistics show that over 50% of Americans have had an affair during their marriage.
3. It’s good for you.  Being in a loveless marriage can be a drain on your day to day energy.  An affair will bring you happiness, joy and satisfaction.  So long as you do it discreetly in a risk-free environment, what’s the harm?
4. Experience something new.  If you don’t you might regret that you didn’t.
5. You can make your dreams come true by having a secret no-strings, no-commitment affair with someone else just like you.

1. Do not have an affair with a colleague, a neighbor, a friend or a member of your family.
2. Don’t tell anyone (not even your closest friend)
3. Take a shower before getting back home
4. Do not do it in your own house
5. Always use a condom

More than half of all men, and around fifty percent of all women, will have an extramarital affair at some point during their marriage. One delicate subject once an affair has started is how to end this activity in the best way possible. Stopping an affair could end badly if it is not handled right, especially if your lover has strong feelings for you and does not want the relationship to end. Look at why you want the affair to end, and be honest about your feelings. Take time to think about every possible reaction you may receive from your lover, and script your responses in return. When breaking off an affair the best way to do this is to meet your lover in a public place, so there is less of a chance that a scene will unfold once you explain the affair is ending.

At the meeting be honest with your lover. Start by stating that the affair is ended, and then make sure to explain the reasons behind this decision. Tell the lover that you will no longer accept contact from them, and ask them to cease all communication from that time on. Once you have explained your position do not stick around, but simply ask them again not to contact you in any way and then leave. Take any appropriate steps to prevent contact, such as blocking the phone number of the ex lover and alerting your employer that the individual is not welcome at your job. If the individual continues to call, text, email, or visit then additional steps may need to be taken.

Contact your cellular company, and ask that the calls and texts from the ex lover are blocked and can not come through. Once this is done simply delete the information for the ex lover, and they can not contact you this way any longer. For emails simply mark the sender info as Spam or trash, and direct the emails straight into the junk file so you do not even have to see them. If the individual shows up at your home or office do not allow them to enter and ask them to leave immediately. If they do not comply it may be necessary to call the police and have them removed.

In some cases an ex lover can turn into a stalker. If this happens then you may need to involve the police, and even get a personal protection order to prevent an ex lover from harassing you. In these situations it may become necessary to admit the affair and warn your spouse, especially if the court and police are involved. Using caution and discretion before, during, and after an affair can prevent this. Avoid feeling pity or sympathy for the other party, and never attempt to negotiate or give in to emotional blackmail. These steps may erode your will to end the affair, and can be used by an ex lover to manipulate you into starting the affair back up. Once you have ended the affair stay strong, and refuse any contact. This will let the other party know you are serious in your resolve to end the relationship permanently.

Marital dating websites are a novel approach to extramarital affairs, and these websites include married individuals who want to have an affair, but who also want discretion and do not want to get caught. There are a number of these sites available online, and they allow you to meet willing partners without risking your marriage or hurting your spouse in many cases. The truth is that an affair can cause the end of your marriage, but these websites lower the risk of being caught by allowing like minded individuals to meet and communicate. Marital dating websites do not encourage cheating and affairs, however they do provide a needed service and take all possible precautions to allow you secrecy. These websites work in the same way that many singles websites do, but in most cases the members are not looking for a commitment or permanent relationship.

One of the most well known marital dating sites is AshleyMadison.com, but there are many others as well. Most of these sites offer a free trial so that you can browse the available members, and they offer many married individuals looking for the right person to start an affair with. Individuals who visit and sign up for marital dating sites are usually looking for partners who want to have an affair without risking discovery. Using these websites will minimize your potential risks during the affair, because if your partner is also married then they will try extremely hard to keep this activity a secret in most cases.

The first step to using marital dating websites is to register for an account. It is a good idea to use a secret email address and a P.O. Box address that has been set up beforehand when you register for these websites, so that your normal email or physical address information is not available. You can choose a free trial with most of these sites, so that you can browse and see just what they offer before you decide to purchase a membership. If you will be using a credit card to pay for your subscription it is a good idea to verify what billing information will appear on your card statement, especially if your spouse can access the credit card bills.

Marital dating websites are very similar to those that target singles, with the important addition that most members are either married themselves or looking for an affair with a married individual. You do not have to worry about an affair becoming an affair being broadcast around town by the other party, and marital dating websites specialize in discretion and secrecy. Once you start looking through the members on these sites you will be amazed at just how many married individuals there are looking to have an affair without being caught. These sites can help you find other individuals who have the same needs and concerns that you do, and there is a wide range of preferences to choose from. Many marital dating websites have thousands of members who want to have an affair, but they want to do it in a way that does not result in the affair being discovered by their spouse or that causes any emotional pain or marital consequences. These sites will minimize your discovery risks while expanding the possible affair partners for you to choose from.

Guilt plays a role for many people both during an affair and after this activity has ended. This guilt can be detrimental to your health and life, but how can you lose the guilt and feel normal again? Feelings of guilt are often picked up by the spouse, especially if a couple has been married for some time. If the affair is still going on your guilt could cause the affair to be discovered, and if the affair has ended this guilt could cause emotional damage to the injured spouse. Some people feel guilty even when the affair has not started yet, simply because the urge to do so is present. The first thing you should do is take some deep breaths and count to ten or twenty. This will clear your head so you can think rationally and clearly about the facts, without guilt causing you to make the wrong decisions.

One way to minimize any guilt during the affair is to take pains to be extremely discreet. If your spouse does not find out then no one gets hurt, and there is no reason to feel guilt. Many affairs are discovered because of carelessness. Running into friends who know you and your spouse while out with your lover is a common problem, and you can prevent this by going away from the area you live in for your trysts. Use a disposable cell phone and secret email address so your spouse never finds any communications between you and your lover. For most people the guilt subsides as time goes on and the affair is not discovered, but this can be when carelessness slips in. Guilt is the way your brain has of telling you to be careful and think things through. Never give your lover your home or work phone number or address, because this can complicate things.

What about any guilt after the affair has ended? Once you have ended the affair some of your guilt should disappear. Many people confess to their spouse, in the hopes of eliminating this guilt, but often this will only make things worse. If you are having a hard time dealing with guilt from an affair then you may want to see a therapist to work through these feelings. In some cases revealing the affair is advised, so that any marital problems can be addressed, but a therapist should be the first step in making this decision.

The most common question asked about extramarital affairs are whether these activities are good or bad, and the answer to this question depends on many different factors. Some affairs can cause a marriage to become stronger, with better communication and an improved relationship. Other affairs may cause the marriage to disintegrate and fall apart, resulting in divorce and possibly bitter fights over custody and property in some cases. An affair can be sexual or it can be emotional, and this factor can also make a difference in whether the results are good or bad. If an affair is a sign that there are problems at home then the discovery of this action may lead to the home problems being discussed and resolved.

Extramarital affairs can be very damaging emotionally, even if the end result is a stronger marriage and better relationship between the spouses. Some individuals may take pains to be discovered, in the hopes that an unhappy marriage will either end or get better as a result, while others go to great lengths to keep their activity a secret and prevent their spouse from finding out. Discretion is a key to preventing any emotional pain, and individuals who have affairs and are not discrete will usually get caught. Sometimes an extramarital affair can fill a need that the individual has, one that either is not or can not be met by their spouse. Good or bad really can not be used to describe affairs, because every affair has different factors and circumstances involved.

Affairs come in two main types, physical and emotional. When it comes to damage done to the marriage an emotional affair is worse. In many cases when the emotional attachment becomes strong over the course of these affairs then the other person may pose a threat to the marriage itself. In some cases the person having the extramarital affair may stop feeling love and affection towards their spouse. This usually leads to divorce, often so that the spouse having the affair can be open and spend all their time in the other relationship.

A physical affair which is purely sexual in nature is often the more desirable of the two affair types for the spouse not in an affair. A physical attraction or one time fling is often forgiven much more easily, and is viewed as less of a betrayal, especially by women. Some individuals have sex with many different people because they enjoy a challenge, or are addicted to sex. In some cases these affairs can result in an incompatibility in sex drives between spouses, and this affair provides needed physical relief. An extramarital affair does not necessarily mean the end of a marriage if this information is discovered, if both spouses are willing to work on any issues and conflicts in the marriage. In some cases an affair can have benefits for the spouse in the dark. The spouse having the affair may be extra attentive out of guilt or a sense of shame, and unless the affair is found out then no harm has been done in these cases.