 I finally understand men! |
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| I read this book while my boyfriend (now my fiance) and I were taking some time apart. Not only did this book help me to understand and interpret his behavior; it helped me to understand my OWN behavior in relationships. I realized how so often we try to give so much to the other person, but our efforts fall on deaf ears because men and women DO NOT want the same things. This book served as a true epiphany, and I use John's tips everyday in my happy, successful relationship. |
One word, Excellent!!!
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| This book really opened my eyes not only to my unconscious part I took in destroying my relationships before they even started, but every reader should pay close attention to the chapter on Masculine/feminine confusion which is so prevelant in our society and we all have been affected by it in some way even if we aren't aware of it! This is not to be confused with gender, that's another whole subject within itself. As a studier of Adler, this is an exceptional reference guide to those looking to either repair a broken relationship or to discover their own tendency to misplace blame, or to create the "domino effect" in their relationships. |
AN AMAZING READ...
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| Reviewer: Diana H, New York |
I am not an avid reader, but after what appeared to be the end of a great relationship, I needed somewhere to turn. I read through titles of hundreds of books looking for just the right one; the one that could help me understand what was happening in my relationship and why. As with most women, I was somewhat familiar with Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus, but never read it. I took my time and read the preface to so many books, but this book seemed like it might be "the one". As I began reading, I didn't want to put the book down!! I finished the book within a week (again, not an avid reader, but it was a very easy read) and walked away with an amazing comprehension of my boyfriend and our relationship. I could identify with SO MANY THINGS from this book and relate them to my situation. A month before reading this, my boyfriend became distant and seemed to withdraw from our regular conversations. Since we were so close, I didn't understand what was going on and could only conclude he was no longer interested in me -- he must have found someone else. As I read -- there it was -- the exact situation I was going through explained in black and white with no emotional attachments -- he was having (big) problems at work and as such was focusing his full attention on work.
READ THIS -- MEN AND WOMEN -- to get a better understanding of each other, even if you believe you are exactly the same -- YOU AREN'T! I understand now!!!! THANK YOU!!! |
This will open your eyes!
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| Here is THE BOOK for a couple experiencing problems communicating and expressing their feelings to one another. My lady and I have recently experienced a painful breakup. I then purchased this book and immediately saw some of the reasons why we saw things differently and suffered a communication breakdown. I wish I had read this book a year ago! I could not put it down and read it rapidly. Now, I plan to reread it again slowly. You will get more out of this book than Dr. Grays "Mars/Venus" books and the 100's of other books on relationships between men and women. If you are having problems with your mate SHARE THIS BOOK! Read it yourself first, than read it together. It will open your eyes as to how to give and receive unconditional love. Wish you good luck and good love. |
Saved our marriage.. literally
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| Reviewer: W. A. Freeman Jr., Auburn, AL USA |
| My wife and I divorced in 1995. We were apart for two years. Situations in our life kept bringing us back together to deal with children. Eventually we decided to try to put our marriage back together so we went to Christian counseling. Our counselor had us read this book. Time after time my jaw would drop open while reading. My wife said the same thing. I remember saying, "She isn't crazy afterall. Our differences are normal." Both our eyes were opened allowing us to accept our differences without feeling the other one did not care of love the other. This book along with our desire to do God's will was the basis for our putting our marriage back together. We remarried after 2-1/2 years apart. That was six years ago. I buy this book regularly to give to couples old and young alike. It is a Godsend for a society too quick to divorce and too misunderstanding of one another. |
My boyfriend is still my boyfriend thanks to this book.
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| My summary says it all. I found myself becoming angry about every little thing my boyfriend did, and through this book, came to understand a) why he did the things he did, b)why I reacted the way I did, and c) how those two factors relate. Now, I've learned to change the way I react, and as a result, he's gradually changing the way he acts. He's not even concious that there's been a huge change in the way we relate to each other, but what he does know is that he's happier (and so am I). |
It helped put our marriage back together again.
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| My wife and I divorced. After a year and a half we decided to put it back together with counseling. We found many of the same old issues came up. Our counselor had us purchase this book and read it. The wall between us started crumbling. The book along with a deep desire to put our marriage back together has made us both happier with one another than ever. I am in love with my wife. She is in love with me. |
A must have for anyone in, or contemplating a relationship!
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| If you, or you and your mate, want to get the best out of a relationship, then you should get this book. It not only lets you in on the secrets of the opposite sex, but gives you pratical ways that you can improve your relationships now and in the future. I find it amazing that a man, Dr. John Gray, has such insight into the female mind and isn't afraid to talk freely about male behavior. This is definitely what we all have been looking for to understand the opposite sex and better our relationships |
Redundant, redundant, redundant
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| Reviewer: , |
| As a class assignment, we were to read a specific John Gray book and present it to the class. I started off by reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", the orginal book. I must say that I found it very educational and it has helped in my relationship. After reading the first of the series, I was looking forward to reading the "Men, Women, and Relationships" book. The book overall was a letdown. I did find some information helpful but I also found that same information repeated throughout the book. John Gray could've made the book one-third of its length and it would have included all the same lessons in male-female relationships. |
Not all new info, but still a good read ....
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| Reviewer: Deeds-n-VA, Richmond VA |
| I've read several of the M/V books and this one isn't all new info, but it did help me to understand some basic differences in men and women. I wouldn't put it at the top of the list of must-reads, but I think overall, it's worth your time. |
Saved our marriage.. literally
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| Reviewer: W. A. Freeman Jr., Auburn, AL USA |
| My wife and I divorced in 1995. We were apart for two years. Situations in our life kept bringing us back together to deal with children. Eventually we decided to try to put our marriage back together so we went to Christian counseling. Our counselor had us read this book. Time after time my jaw would drop open while reading. My wife said the same thing. I remember saying, "She isn't crazy afterall. Our differences are normal." Both our eyes were opened allowing us to accept our differences without feeling the other one did not care of love the other. This book along with our desire to do God's will was the basis for our putting our marriage back together. We remarried after 2-1/2 years apart. That was six years ago. I buy this book regularly to give to couples old and young alike. It is a Godsend for a society too quick to divorce and too misunderstanding of one another. |
Long, but entertaining
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| Reviewer: Katie Jennings, Lawrence, KS |
| Very well written guide for understanding the opposite sex. Even though it was written by a man, it amazes me how well he understands women and how we work. I think this book should be required reading for everyone!! Men, if you want to impress the women, read this! Also, since the book was written by a man, I assume us women can learn a lot about men as well. Read it! |
Practical and Insightful
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| Reviewer: Anne Mattos-Leedom, El Dorado Hills, Ca |
Rarely does a book do such a good job informing the reader in a way that can change lives. John Gray helps the reader understand there are inevitable differences between men and women and the key to success in relationships is to understand and navigate those differences rather than to try and change or ignore them. I also highly recommend Men in Marriage: Straight Talk For Men About Marriage: What Men Need to Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know About Men)by Marty Friedman.
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THIS IS A WONDERFUL TAPE.
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| THIS IS THE PRECURSOR TO MEN ARE FROM MARS. IT IS READ BY THE AUTHOR AND IS VERY WONDERFUL. IT REALLY GOES MORE INDEPTH INTO HIS IDEAS ON THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN. I GIVE IT TWO THUMBS UP. |
Must read for male to female relationships
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| Reviewer: A. Ortiz, |
| This book provides a true map of how to navigate the sexes. A great book for male to female discussions, and it gives excellent insight into the behaviors that people exhibit. An easy, intelligent, great book. Read It! |
Fantastic resource for couples.
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| Reviewer: S. Leverett-Main, Spokane, WA USA |
| Fantastic resource for couples. Suggestions for improving your relationship are sensible and will make a huge difference. |
MUST READ
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| Reviewer: J. Tucker, |
| This book is a must read for any man or woman in a relationship! It's helped me so much in understanding men better, and seeing why men and women don't see eye to eye very well. I was surprised at the next day delivery from the seller at my house! But it was great to get it so fast! |
Good Advice for Stressful Times
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| Reviewer: Rebecca Johnson, Washington State |
"There will always be obstacles to overcome in sustaining a loving relationship. Too often men assume that once they are married, the work of having a relationship is over. Realistically, that is when it begins." ~pg. 124
"Men, Women and Relationships" is the perfect book for troubled times. It is difficult enough to keep a relationship healthy when you are in love and life is going the way you want it to go. After a few years and an added dose of life's inevitable stress men and women start to show different sides of themselves. Men start to withdraw and women become dissatisfied and overwhelmed. This book shows how to deal with these issues especially when stress is the cause.
"Women correct men because they think it will motivate or help them to change. The truth is, it just makes them more stubborn and unyielding." ~ pg. 159
John Gray also discusses how men and women process information and how they can argue less and agree more. Men are instructed to listen more and women are instructed to be a little less nurturing so men don't feel smothered. There is a good section on why women feel unloved that includes a list of suggestions to counter the symptoms of a bad relationship.
If you are serious about your relationship then this book is essential reading. I've read most of John Gray's books and this one had some new and useful information that helped me understand my own marriage on a deeper level.
Also look for:
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex
Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love
~The Rebecca Review
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Men, Women and Relationships
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| Reviewer: Marlana J. Hatch, Columbus, Ohio USA |
| Great, concise relationship tool that everyone could benefit by listening with someone they care to improve their relationship[s] and/or share their life with. |
Thank you for this book!!!
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| Reviewer: Nickel, Colorado |
| I would recommend this book to anyone who needs help communicating with, or is filled with resentment toward, their spouse. I would also get a highlighter out and start using it at the begining! I laughed over and over again while reading this book because it was truly as if the author was speaking directly to my husband and I! I never thought it would be THAT good, but it was! Things are so much better now, but it takes practice so this book remains on our shelf for later reference! |
Very enlightening
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| Reviewer: Iris Melillo, PALM HARBOR, FL |
| First time reading any of Dr. Grey's Venus and Mars books. This was excellent. Both my husband and I gained a tremendous amount of insight as to mind of the opposite sex and how we relate to different situations. I highly recommend it, especially if you are having trouble understanding how your partner does what she/he does. |
Must read for all young people
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| Reviewer: Robert F. Coyne, Knoxville, TN |
| Anyone even thinking about love and marriage must read this book! It will prepare them for what is ahead in their lives; not just blue sky, lovey dovey stuff! |
No more conflicts between MUM and DAD !!
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| Reviewer: Kenneth (Uncle Four), Sydney - AUSTRALIA |
WONDERFUL !! A BOOK THAT TOUCH MY PARENT'S HEART !!
A book that get involve in solving the problems between you parent. With this book, you will able to tell your parent why they are upset with the husband and wife relationship.
The book actually separate people into a "male" or "female" side.
Like, men sometime use their female side's (or women sometime use their male's side) to face everyday problems.
In order to communicate with our soul mate effectively, we must understand which side (male or female) they are in. It's makes you easier to solve and understand their situation.
With real life example, clear expression and simple language. Parents will surely find this book useful. Practicing the ideas is the main issue here.
I believe that this is the best book that John had ever write, even better than his best selling book.
A MUST READ FOR ALL PARENT !!!Please note: Your wife or husband should read this book together in order to maxmise the understanding. |
Great book.Very insightful
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| Reviewer: , |
| For anyone who has ever had a difficult relationship with a loved one,and wondered why,thisbook can help tremendously. |
YOUR LIFE IS POINTLESS UNLESS YOU HAVE READ THIS BOOK
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| Reviewer: , |
| ...and/or any of Dr. Gray's other books. I succintly refer to him casually as "Mankind's Only Hope." I promise you, I am not exaggerating in the slightest. I will understand any non-readers' doubts until they have read some of Dr. Gray's astoundingly "simple, yet profound" thoughts & observations of the lives of men & women. I too had these doubts when someone first hyped his work to me. But if the man in not a genuine genius, he is as close as anyone ever has to be. He is likely to our age what Sigmund Freud was to his age, and it is likely that his work will stand just as vaunted and everlasting. However, as "Men Are From Mars, Women From Venus" is now the #1 HARD-COVER-BEST-SELLER-OF-ALL-TIME, nonetheless still having sold under 10 million copies -- on a planet of 6 billion people, this is sadly still an incredibly infinitesimal amount. Part of the problem is the book's own astounding validation by millions of readers -- there is no reason for the book, even after 5 years as a hard-cover best-seller, to go into a cheaper paperback version. But this earlier paperback of Dr. Gray's shows much of the consistent simple wisdom that permeates all of his work, and can be had by even greater masses for a fraction of the price today. Please do what you can to recommend it, not just to everyone you know, but everyone you ever meet. I was astounded that I could have lived for over 30 years on this Earth in close proximity to the race of females, and have missed so much -- as I am sure the 50% of Dr. Gray's work in each of his books covering men is similarly a revelation to members of the fairer sex. There are NO human beings who will EVER be born who DO NOT NEED TO READ THIS BOOK. It is essentially a crucial manual for living on Earth. We are astoundingly fortunate that Dr. Gray has written it during our lifetimes, and can instantly benefit from it, even as we sadly lament the casual confusion, chaos and inadvertent destruction to that has, in hindsight, plagued those unfortunates in legions of human interpersonal relationships in the history of humankind who were not lucky enough to be born after this monumental author began his writings. |
You love it or you hate it
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| Reviewer: , Boston, MA USA |
| This is one of those books that will totally blow you away or make you wish that you had not wasted your energy on. After reading the reveiws I found it easy to relate to the ones that praised the book and the ones that demolished it. There are some chapters that I found amazing and others that I could not finish do to boredom. It is similar to his first book but it does share some new insights that can benefit almost any relationship. When reading this book one must remember that it was not written to just fit there needs it is written to a broad audience. |
Solve the conflicts between MUM and DAD !!
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| Reviewer: Kenneth (Uncle Four), Sydney - AUSTRALIA |
WONDERFUL !! A BOOK THAT TOUCH MY PARENT'S HEART !!
Definitely a good book if you want want to get involve with the problems between you parent. With this book, you will able to tell your parent why they are upset with the husband and wife relationship.
The book actually separate people into a "male" or "female" side.
Like, men sometime use their female side's (or women sometime use their male's side) to face everydays problem.
In order to communicate with our partner effectively, we must understand which side (male or female) they are in. It's makes you easier to solve and understand their situation.
With real life example, clear expression and simple language. Parents will surely fall in love with this book. Also keep on practice the ideas is th emain issue here.
I am believe this is the best book that Dr John Gray ever write, even better than his best selleing book.
A MUST READ FOR ALL PARENT !!! |
after the horse is out of the barn ...Mr. Gray?
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| Reviewer: Ame Hunter, |
| I read this book and my emmediate thought was "damage controll" ,a book to clean up the mess pop-culture and John Gray are already responsible for.The book is just another addition to the ongoing parade of Gray books which lack any new case to present,it reads like the scrambled and re-edited words of all his other books. Making a long story short - John Gray is doing nothing more than selling the same plot under different titles. |
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