How to Date Young Women: For Men over 35

Steele makes several points. First, when you are single, lonely, ... that is automatically the kind of vibes that you give off and that's the kiss of death. On the other hand, people who are dating someone will actually attract *more* and *better-looking* girls because they're automatically perceived as desirable by females.

To break the cycle, you must change yourself a little, and this is not as hard as it sounds. When you do something as trivial as getting a new haircut or starting to "dress for success," for instance, your personality changes a little. The concept of Change leads to more chances of developing a "String of Pearls," another issue explained by Steele. That, in turn, leads to the ultimate concept of the book: "THE RIGHT ATTITUDE." The Right Attitude leads to success with women.

There's a lot of other issues explained in the book in Q&A format, such as how NOT to be a "nice guy" and the fact that FEMALES choose you, not the other way around. The style is indeed crude but it works. Any single man should get this book, not just guys over 35.

If you actually followed the program in the book, you probably would end up being too busy dating women your own age (which is recommended as practice during the early stages of your training) to actually get around to dating younger women. Which is not such a bad thing.

This book is for any man (or woman) who is interested in creating happy, honest relationships with the opposite sex.

First off, Steele immediately explains why such nonsense advice as "be nice", and "just be yourself", never works. Then he explains which qualities women of all ages instinctively look for, and must have, in a man. Steele shows you how to look. How to talk. How to understand "her". How to find, date, and mate with "her". And just as important, Steele tells you what NOT to do, so you don't keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

Steele writes like a drill sergeant on a sacred mission. To help guys reclaim their manhood, and relearn the "politically incorrect" mating skills that have always worked since the beginning of time. But HTDYW is also quite funny, and Steele is brutally honest about his failures, as well as his successes.

Also recommended: For maximum benefit buy also Volume II, 'Office Practice', and 'Body Language Secrets' from the same author; together they make a complete, practical, non-BS guide to achieving success in business and personal life.

I would further guess that if you read the book you'd notice some similarity between the author's style and the style of these reviews. Just a theory of course...

Much of what he says is confusing. Such as "Act interested but act aloof". And then he ends his idea. He doesn't develop any of his statements at all. His chapter on eye contact will really screw you up. Waiting for women to give you the positive eye contact will keep you waiting for life. I have had success with many girls without the initial "eye contact signals" Steele tells you to wait for. He also thinks that people are animals. The only one being Steele himself, with the IQ of a parakeet, repeating himself throughout the book.

If you are looking for scripts, or proven techniques, or step by step instructions you won't find them in here. If you are looking at exactly how to proceed with younger women, it is absent here. Just suggestions like "Be a man. Be courageous. Dress Good. Drive a nice car." Pure fluff.

This guy is so egotistical and sells his programs throughout the book. The 58 year old self proclaimed expert with no proven experience. In the world of self help relationship books, this is nothing but a book with a rip off title.

I'm giving the book only three stars because the book lacks "depth." Almost everything in the book is right, but I wanted to know "why" young women do what they do, not what they do or what I should do. Specifically, I wanted to know why young women behave one way while saying they're doing the opposite.
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Thomas David Kehoe, author of "Hearts and Minds: How Our Brains Are Hardwired for Relationships"

I don't think there's a heterosexual guy out there who couldn't learn something at least worth the price of the book by reading it.

While Steele wrote the book around his own attempts to recover what was left of his life after divorce and at middle age, the core knowledge is not really limited to older men seeking younger women. However, his desire to have young lovers sets the basic premise. Since younger women lack the motivations of older women to accept a man's defects, Steele was forced to get his act together in order to acheive his goal. His mistakes are included for your education and amusement. While part of the book does focus on a specific age difference, much of it will be of value to any man.

Notably absent are 'great pickup lines' and advice on how to manipulate women. No fuel for fantasy here. What you do get are concrete actions that can actually be applied to your circumstances. It is especially applicable to those the title addresses, but by no means limited to relationships with a specific age difference. What Steele really conveys is practical knowledge of how to be a better man, with the side benefit that young women will find you attractive.

This is not a book written by "an expert." The author seems more like a self taught expert.

The ideas and advice he offers would actually help any male who wants more success in dating and is willing to do things that are bound to be more successful, not just those interested in young women. He is quite specific in analyzing different types of women, what their world is like, what they most likely want, which ones are most open to a fling, what kind of expectations to have, etc. In other chapters he does a pretty good job of giving you many, many specific ideas for evaluating and improving yourself so as to make a good impression -- lots of details about you, your car, how your place looks -- many things to do, to avoid.

Lot's of content, no BS.

I have been single now for two years and at 47 years old have not been very successful inn the dating area even after reading several books on dating and meeting women. This book is different from others I have read in that it is very honest in what it takes to be successful in dating women, women of all ages. It not only states what is going on with women in our society and what they want but also the man you must be if you are going to be attractive to any on them.
One point that is shared and explained well is that the women is the one who does the choosing and if she does not choose you, than you might as well move on to someone who does find you desirable. The book shares what it takes to be desirable to many women and how to go about getting there. This is something else I liked about this book it was honest in what it takes to be successful with women and that it takes work and time, not just some great line or an expensive watch or car.