Having an affair with someone you know vs. having an affair with a total stranger. Wich is better?
If you are thinking about an affair one important question concerns the other party in the affair. Is it better to have an affair with a complete stranger or choose someone you know for this role instead? Each case is different, but there are some advantages and drawbacks involved with each of these scenarios. Some people choose a complete stranger for the anonymity, while others rely on a friend or acquaintance instead in the hopes that knowing the individual will prevent any gossip, and keep the affair details from being revealed. In some cases starting an affair with a stranger can have safety issues involved, while someone you know can be considered a safer choice in many cases. You may want to start an affair with a specific person in mind, or want to undertake this goal for the attention, thrill, or sense of excitement without anyone specific in mind.
There are some drawbacks to having an affair with a stranger, but with careful planning these can be minimized or even eliminated. A complete stranger is unknown, and there is a big possibility this person will lie about their identity. Because an affair happens in secret, with few people aware of the meeting times and places, there could be some danger involved. Not everyone is a good person in the world today, and the complete stranger you meet could be a psychopath. With this route you should let a close trusted friend or family member into the loop. The usual advice is to prevent anyone from finding out about the affair, but it is not safe to secretly meet a complete stranger without using some precautions. Always meet for the first time in a public place, but try for a location away from your home and where you will not run into anyone you know. With a complete stranger one of the benefits can include less guilt, as well as a much smaller chance of your affair being discovered by your spouse.
Having an affair with someone you know also has some risks and benefits. You may consider someone who is known to you as a safer alternative, but there is also some aspects which can cause problems. If you choose a friend or coworker and the affair ends you may still have to see the other person frequently. If the affair involves someone that both you and your spouse know there is a bigger possibility of the affair being discovered.
If the affair becomes out of control when you try to end it then an individual familiar with your spouse may tell, either in revenge or in the hopes that the spouse will leave and you will be free. With a stranger this is not a big risk, because the person does not know anything about you except what you choose to disclose. Either affair situation can be managed successfully if caution and discretion are used, and the answer may be different for each person. You will need to look at your unique situation and then decide which type of affair partner is best in your own case.
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