Extramarital Affairs: Why do men do it?
Why do men do it? More men than women have affairs, but these percentages are starting to even out. Men may start an affair for a number of reasons, some of them the same reasons that women may have an affair as well. One of the reasons that a man may become involved in an affair is simply because the possibility exists. This may not make sense to women, but for a man some sexual encounters are simply physical activities that are done because they can be. Knowing that a sexual escapade can happen for many men is the same as having to do it. Some call this an addiction, others a lack of self control, while still others call this behavior natural for males. Individuals who become involved in an affair are not bad people, and many people every year give in to the lure of starting an affair for their own specific reasons.
Unhappiness is a common cause for affairs. Over time as a married couple priorities change. Women have children, and may not pay attention to their appearance as much or make an effort to stay in shape. The conversations between spouses can become stale and uninteresting. Both parties start to take each other for granted, and there is no longer any excitement or passion. Many men have an affair because they are not happy with their spouse or home life, and are looking for something more. If a wife is not being affectionate at home then the husband may look for this same affection from someone else instead. A difference in sex drives between spouses can also cause an affair. Some women do not enjoy sex, and prefer this activity as infrequently as possible. A man may love his wife but need sexual release that she does not provide.
A change in sexual activities may be at the root of an affair. For some men it may not be possible to look at their wife lustfully after she has given birth to their children. Sex in the marriage may become routine, with only a single position and infrequent occasions. A man may start an affair for excitement in their sex life. They may be able to do things with another woman that they simply can not do with their wife. Men may also become unfaithful if their wife has had an affair, and often this infidelity is disclosed so that revenge is taken.
A large number of men who have affairs do it because they have low self esteem. Another woman finding them attractive is a huge turn on, and these affairs provide attention and a feeling of being desired that some men find irresistible. Stress release is another reason for affairs. Men who face a lot of pressure, either at home, at work, or both, may have an affair as a release from all of the stress and pressure they are under. When the man is with an extramarital partner they may not have to worry about anything, and this freedom can be very relaxing.
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